At 2 AM, a 25-year-old woman writes that she’s high and “looking for naughty company.” Another common preference on here is that women want men to be “gym fit,” which is fair enough in an economy of flesh, but not exactly a look most women on Fab Swingers have themselves. Luckily for those women-and unluckily for men who don’t know what “macros” or “renegade rows” are-there are plenty of budget Dwayne Johnsons on here.
At 3 AM, a man in Camden asks, “Can accomodate [sic] in NW5 have party stuff aswell [sic] who wants to play?”
This suggests that, rather than being byproducts of swinging, these downsides have migrated over with users looking for quick sex with no understanding of “the lifestyle
Naturally, profile lengths vary, with some users writing one-line bios and others longer more descriptive entries-though judging by the amount of headings like “READ PROFILE FIRST,” most go unread, with messages presumably dashed off in one-handed haste.
For couples, the lure seems more about engaging in what we know as traditional swinging, where long-term relationships open themselves up in order to-theoretically-get stronger. Ironically, despite someone banging your significant other being more offensive to non-swingers than singles having casual sex, couples on Fab Swingers appear better-adjusted, safer, and less prone to the site’s downsides than others. ” Many of these have come from Tinder and OkCupid, along with Craigslist’s recently deleted personals section-all previous ports for people wanting to get it in.
“The main issue with Tinder is that, as its popularity grew, so did its functionality,” one 27-year-old Fab Swingers user tells me. “It went from being ‘the booty call on campus’ to a universal dating app.”
He says that, since Craigslist deleted its personals section last March, users have scattered not only to Fab Swingers but also FetLife and Reddit. He also believes that traditional swinging has dwindled because of generational change: “Swinging isn’t as popular with younger demographics due to poly couples becoming more commonplace. Casual sex [also] isn’t as taboo as it was 20 years ago.”
Most recently, he says, he’s seen a huge rise in young women joining Fab Swingers because of what he calls “the normalization of ‘daddy’ kinks.”
At 4 AM, a couple in their late-30s asks, “Who’s around now SE9 for a 3 sum [sic]?” before giving out their Kik username-an anonymous messenger app used by many Fab Swingers members.
Though Fab Swingers claims to safeguard against this, Google image-searching someone’s photos before chatting is smart, as pictures are frequently taken from porn sites and social media
One downside is fakes. Despite most users being verified-if not by others, then by photographing themselves alongside their usernames-thousands are not. If a profile has no verifications and isn’t brand new, something 
is likely afoot-especially when photos of a beautiful woman or impossibly large dick are involved. These fakes often invite unsuspecting users onto Kik, where they’ll solicit face pics or videos before disappearing, having presumably gotten their kicks.
Another downside is the prevalence of unprotected sex, as evidenced not only by photos, but profiles where interests like “bareback” and “cream pies” are explicitly stated. The sharp tip of this iceberg is “breeding,” a growing fetish where people literally aim to conceive a child during no-strings-attached hookups.
Breeding is a common kink among dominant men on Fab Swingers, says the 23-year-old woman I speak to” “I get a lot of guys enquiring about it, and even offering to pay me to cum in my pussy. In fact, I’ve been getting close to a new dom who’s very into the idea of breeding me. To him, the best way to make me his is to plant his seed in me. It’s about ownership and intimacy for some.”